Very good, insightful advice. I particularly like the double step of 1) acknowledging the fear without judgment and 2) taking it to God without shame.
One thing to keep in mind is that for some of us, our parents were the source of big-T trauma, and our fear is a signal that they are in fact dangerous people. In the case of child sexual assault, it's particularly difficult to continue a relationship with the parent or obtain earthly justice.
Lisa, those are great takeaways from this episode. The fear signal is meant to alert and protect you, so being harmed by the people who are supposed to protect you is deeply confusing and harmful. Removing judgment and shame over a fear response is a good starting point when addressing this type of trauma. Your description is accurate and important to identify so thank you for sharing about how difficult this dynamic is.
Very good, insightful advice. I particularly like the double step of 1) acknowledging the fear without judgment and 2) taking it to God without shame.
One thing to keep in mind is that for some of us, our parents were the source of big-T trauma, and our fear is a signal that they are in fact dangerous people. In the case of child sexual assault, it's particularly difficult to continue a relationship with the parent or obtain earthly justice.
Lisa, those are great takeaways from this episode. The fear signal is meant to alert and protect you, so being harmed by the people who are supposed to protect you is deeply confusing and harmful. Removing judgment and shame over a fear response is a good starting point when addressing this type of trauma. Your description is accurate and important to identify so thank you for sharing about how difficult this dynamic is.
Thank you.